Mental Health

Lottery thinking holds people back. Don’t hope. Do the work so you don’t have to pray to a fake god to get what you want. — Our older selves are always wiser. At 26 I had a closed mind, eating disorder, and thought I was smarter than Einstein. At 36 I’ve come a long way. Some of the best lessons we can share come from the advice we’d give our younger selves. Here are my cheat…

Watch out for these signs and phrases to protect yourselves from mental abuse — What comes to your mind when you think of the word “gaslighting?” Probably an image of a character from a movie or TV show, like Patrick Bateman in American Psycho or Norma Bates in Psycho. While gaslighting is often portrayed in entertainment, it’s not always so easy to spot in…

It is surprisingly your daily habits that have the most impact on your energy, making you tired and less productive — Energy is the ability to do work. You and I need a certain level of physical, mental, and emotional energy to work at any given time. But energy is a finite resource. It reduces in volume as we use it. This explains why we sometimes feel tired, exhausted, and fatigued. …

#2: Practice gentle self-talk — As a psychologist, I spend a lot of time talking to people who struggle with low self-esteem. They say things like: I’m very successful, but it never feels like enough. I know this is bad to say, but I just never feel worthy. But whatever the original cause of your…

And some clear signs to see if you’re being roached. — Online dating can be messy. You could put so much effort only to get disappointed over and over again. Do you know that one guy you’ve been waiting for but never comes back after the first date? Yes, he’s ghosting you, and no, it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough…

Positive psychology and neuroplasticity for a progressive mindset. — Have you ever thought about how our brain has endless possibilities for changing our lives? Sometimes we feel stuck, and an inner voice keeps screaming for a change. Human beings have the power to heal and transform their lives. All we need is some brain rewiring and a positive mindset. …

It’s digital crack cocaine for kids — TikTok is quickly becoming the most destructive social media platform that has ever existed: The interface is explicitly designed to hijack and shorten attention spans and dopamine receptors. TikTok shares your data more than any other social media app. And, on a personal note, seeing the endless stream of dancing…

It’s 8:30 am and I’m seated at my desk. I’m wearing my brown Cole Haans, Banana Republic slacks and J. Crew button-down. I feel safe in this uniform. It projects a certain confidence. A confidence that comes with fitting in. In this uniform, at this desk, I have solidified my…