Listen to a podcast expanding on this post here! In this post, I discuss what women generally want in a romantic relationship. It is great as a discussion-starter within your relationship, and also provides valuable information for men who want to understand their wives better. It can also help women…

Many people advise to keep first dates light and carefree. This means not asking any “personal” questions, including about religion or politics. As a couples therapist, I believe exactly the opposite, as you might be able to tell from listening to my podcast about whether you should say you like…

A lot of women believe that “all men are jerks,” which is as inaccurate as when men think that “all women are selfish” or any other broad generalization. (To men who believe the latter, I provide you with this podcast episode.) When people believe in these monolithic constructs, it only…

Reader Unwanted Attention writes, My neighbor and I are not extremely close but we do hang out sometimes, e.g. take walks together or have some playdates. The other week her husband hit on me, I was surprised because he has never done anything like that, we barely even talk to…

Reader Emasculating B*tch writes, My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 10 of them. Before we were married we had the “kids discussion” where I said not having kids was a deal breaker for me. He agreed to have kids. At this time I had…

Reader Ashamed Husband writes, I have a strange issue that will make me sound like a jerk, but obviously I am trying to figure it out by writing in, so maybe not a complete jerk. I am ashamed of my wife when we interact with others socially. She is a…

Many men take their wives’ post-honeymoon stage lowered libido personally when they shouldn’t, as this is a natural phenomenon that occurs even if you still find your husband very attractive. But there are also men on the other end of the spectrum, who are denying and ignoring all signs that…

Over the years that I have been working with couples, I have come to recognize that there are positives and negatives about all love languages, including physical touch. Men think that a woman having a physical touch love language is only a positive, because sex falls into the bucket of…

I work with many Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families who were raised by difficult parents in sad or chaotic homes. Many of these people had parents who used guilt and shame as ways to exert control and get their needs met by their kids. Narcissistic, BPD, and depressed parents all…