Marriage

It’s not what they do, it’s who they are. — Actions, by nature, are fleeting. When someone does “a thing,” that thing, then, is over. Its impact may be lasting, but the action itself is short-lived. This is why consistent action in a relationship is necessary. Just because someone makes you feel special once time doesn’t mean that feeling is…

Many people advise to keep first dates light and carefree. This means not asking any “personal” questions, including about religion or politics. As a couples therapist, I believe exactly the opposite, as you might be able to tell from listening to my podcast about whether you should say you like…

It would take me years to appreciate the glamour of old things — It had been a long day. I stared down at the table as my hand brushed across that green marker stain that I could never get out. I leaned back on the oak chair which felt sturdy yet uncomfortable as I lay my head back — not on a cushioned…

Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? — Remember the meme with the little blonde girl with pigtails shrugging? Yeah? So…that’s me. I have no idea if he will cheat again… I am eight months into this unexpected infidelity journey. This question burns its way through my brain at least once a day. Mostly when I see him…

But this is what my marriage counselor told me — “What were you thinking?” asks my marriage counselor. “What do you mean?” I say. “You asked nothing of your husband,” he says. “I thought I was being kind,” I say. “My mom raised five children by herself. She was my role model. She did it all and she made it…

When Reddit teaches me about the consequences of my actions — Surviving Infidelity is a sub on Reddit. Me being a heinous cheater, I look at it from time to time. It’s like electric shock therapy. How bad am I? Pretty damn horrible. What are the consequences for my poor spouse? He’d be lumped into four categories according to surviving infidelity’s metric: First, post DDay…