Reflections

Where have your footwear taken you? I know men who turn into passionately aroused brutes when it comes to shoes. In fact, I’ve walked into their homes where the first greeting is the sight of neatly lined oxfords, derbies, monk straps and brogues, penny loafers and bit loafers, drivers, boots…

Hmmm…. this is a hard one to share but like always, let’s go… I was speaking to a colleague who was upset about his previous decisions. He was full of ‘if I hadn’t’ and ‘had I known’, and it occurred to me during our conversation that I, too, could relate…

Taking stock of what could almost have been my last year — As we approach the last 32 days of this year I feel myself looking back, wondering if there was anything I could have done differently to achieve my desired outcome. I know there is stuff I should be happy with; Maintained and improved my gym schedule, barring being ill or…

The end is inevitable — but maybe not imminent — You arrived on time for your appointment. You glance at your wristwatch and see that you’ve been waiting for an hour. You feel a little guilty, knowing that you probably should have made the appointment for a day last week — or last month. But you console yourself with the knowledge that you’re here now, and that if you have a problem, you may be able to do something about it.

I wrote an essay a while back about respectability politics. The conclusion was essentially that while I don’t agree with the conclusions or ideology of respectability politics, I can understand and even respect the impulse to mold oneself into a respectable shape, especially if you are already close to it…

It’s been two years since I last wrote an article and published it. Post-pandemic my life has been chiefly about honing my craft and earning a decent living, But during this time I have grown in my career, made mistakes, and learnt from them. …

but I’m not going back — As a child and teenager, I loved going to Disney almost every year on vacation. It was where my mom and I spent no-stress time together and bonded. Time was enhanced by many wonderful rides and foods. I’ve been lucky enough to see Disney at Christmas, Halloween and all four seasons. However, my mother recently asked me if I would go back. Initially, I told her no because of decreased health (her) and mobility (both).